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Domestic Violence affects one in three women in their life time. Let that sink in for a moment, one in three women will experience physical, emotional, mental, financial or sexual abuse from an intimate partner, a parent, a sibling or someone else within the home. But, there is life after DV as Pearl Vella-Harber so publicly demonstrated; there can be courage and closure after abuse. The SHE Word dives into this topic for a third time as Trudy sits down with Pearl Vella Haber, Nancy Abela and Elaine Compagno to take a look at various stages of surviving and overcoming DV, from the acknowledgement of violence and calling it out for what it is, to planning an exit. From sitting with grief and anger, to building a new and complete life. Pearl shares the impact of her own experiences of manipulation, isolation, name calling and threats that shaped her childhood and early adult life; the turning point that helped her build her life again, as well as the breaking point that lead to her taking a stand and facing her perpetrators. Trauma therapist Nancy Abela not only shares her own personal story but the journey that lead her to become and Trauma Therapist, specialising in Narcissistic abuse and how she helps other women as they navigate the after effects of DV and the therapeutic process the will guide them to a full and free life. Elaine is back on her second appearance talking about DV, the sometimes unexpected fall out of recovery, and to offer personal account as well as practical advice. This show is so much more than a podcast, this episode is a source of powerful encouragement and inspiration for ALL women. Watch and be seen, be empowered, and be educated. Huge thanks to Brown's, Perrier, Always. Tampax, Satariano, Holland and Barrett, Camilleri Paris Mode, Verdala Wellness Hotel and Spa, Mapfre, BOV and Lindex for supporting these conversations. If you are affected by this topic please reach out for help: If you are in immediate danger please call the Police: 112 The Domestic Violence Unit Support Line: 179 Anonymous Online Support Line Kellimni: Kellimni.com Victim Support: +356 2122 8333, info@victimsupport.org.mt SOAR: +356 2180 9011 / +356 2180 8981 / +356 2767 2367 The views, opinions, and statements expressed by the interviewees in this program are solely their own and do not reflect the views, opinions, or positions of the interviewer, the production team, or any affiliated entities. The interviewer assumes no responsibility or liability for any comments made by the interviewees during the course of the program. Viewers are encouraged to form their own opinions and interpretations based on the information presented. 00:00:00 - Start 00:01:08 - Introduction 00:03:55 - Welcome to Pearl, Nancy and Elaine 00:05:47 - The DV first show flashback with Elaine 00:07:41 - Meeting Nancy 00:10:05 - Meeting Pearl 00:12:15 - What is DV? 00:14:18 - Why is it difficult to name DV in our lives? 00:16:55 - Realising that things are not what they should be 00:19:40 - Is this normal? 00:21:18 - The Self Preservation Instinct 00:24:09 - Fight, Flight, Freeze - but also Fawning 00:30:18 - Pearl Break the Chains and Patterns 00:34:29 - The Issue of Shame 00:41:01 - Not a Victim - A Survivor 00:42:36 - Reporting and Support 00:43:06 - Pearl’s Story 00:47:59 - What is Trauma Bonding 00:53:34 - Fixing Childhood Trauma 00:58:57 - The Barriers to Recovery 01:02:22 - Hyper-Independence 01:04:40 - Grieving for what you never had 01:09:02 - Physical health implications 01:17:57 - The Knock on Self Esteem 01:20:57 - The Narcissist 01:32:50 - Steps to Moving Forward 01:38:27 - Pearl’s Turning Point 01:46:00 - ‘F*CK THIS - I DESERVE BETTER’ 01:50:36 - The Breaking Point 01:59:07 - Getting the Help 02:02:42 - If you are considering leaving 02:07:47 - Pearls closing words